Analysis Can Enhance Understanding, Communication
Between Teenagers, Parents, and Teachers
Kathleen M. Dickinson, CGA
Teenage years are often difficult
years. Part child, part adult, these youngsters find themselves
making decisions that may affect the rest of their lives. High
School itself is a microcosm of the entire world in one set of
buildings. There is peer pressure to look right, take drugs, use
alcohol, compete in sports, handle sex, show concern for world
events and environmental concerns, while last but not least,
learning the school curriculum.
Still another set of issues are
home-centered, perhaps around religion, nutrition, chores,
finances and the often inconsistent behavior of parents and
siblings. It is a lot for a young person to assimilate and act on.
The Personality on Paper
I have found handwriting analysis a
useful tool because it gives parents, teachers and the teenager a
better idea of what is going on inside, and therefore makes it
easier to take action. Handwriting is the way you express your
personality on paper. Just as an EKG reflects the rhythm of the
heart, handwriting reflects the rhythms of the brain, personality.
Personality includes our thinking processes, imagination,
emotional responsiveness, defense mechanisms, fears, how we
achieve our goals, and what gets in the way of that achievement.
Handwriting also reflects our integrity, our interest in
socializing and our vocational talents. Just as each snowflake is
unique so is a person's handwriting. All traits are evaluated to
create a whole picture.
Human beings are very complex, and
yet most of us tend to think everyone should think and feel as we
do. That is definitely not case. There are at least five thinking
processes. Some people have one, some have two or three and some
have all five. Then there are aspects such as fluidity,
self-confidence levels and emotional depth that enhance or detract
from the way we process information.
cumulative thinker (rounded letters) draws conclusions upon
which to act after carefully building facts in a logical
step-by-step process. Such careful processing promotes
comprehensive thinker (needle pointed structures) has quick
cognition - an instant grasp of ideas and situations.
investigative thinker seeks to learn and find solutions. This
is usually accompanied by analytical thinking (both found in
inverted 'v' structures) which investigates within the realm
of known, established knowledge.
exploratory thinker goes beyond the known and into unknown
regions (high rising inverted 'v' structures).
cursory thinker who just wants to know the bottom line and not
all the details.
Many of these thinking styles are
used in combination with each other. If keen comprehensive
thinking parents and teachers have a cumulative thinking child,
you can imagine the potential frustrations and hurt on all sides.
The parties may be equally intelligent, but simply expressing
intelligence in different ways. The parents and teachers may feel
the child is not quick enough and the child may feel stupid. In
school it may be tempting to call on the quick students and leave
the slower (but accurate and intelligent) child by the wayside.
Self-esteem issues then arise; restlessness, sensitiveness to
criticism, and worry can result.
All of these traits are seen in the
handwriting. Worrying is shown in the vertical loop in mostly 'm'
and 'n' formations, although it can be seen in other letters such
as capital 'R's. This indicates a lack of realism, an indefinite
dread or anxiety, or even anguish played upon by the imagination.
It uses up a lot of energy.
Vocational traits are also
reflected in the handwriting. Many people take whatever job they
can find to make money, without taking into account what their
talents are. In the past boys became doctors, construction
workers, lawyers and managers. Girls became nurses, secretaries,
sales clerks, and librarians. Today many more doors are open for
both sexes, but it helps to know what your talents are at 18
rather than waiting to find out when you are 38+.
People are happiest when they are
doing what they enjoy. They are more productive. If a person has a
lot of physical energy, as shown in the lower loop of a 'p' or in
the depth or slant, it will not be in anybody's best interest to
put this person behind a desk for 8 hours a day. A physically
active person needs diversity.
Round pegs are often forced into
square holes. Some women would make excellent managers but are
working as clerks and are then accused of being hard to work with.
They would not be hard to work with if they were allowed to use
their leadership skills.
The more teenagers know about their
talents, communication styles, protective mechanisms and options,
the happier and more compassionate they become. Self-knowledge
diffuses self-anger and helps to eliminate the abuse of others.
Once the individual knows he or she is not stupid, or wrong, his
talents and skills are no longer suppressed and can be put into
Teenage years are the perfect time
for individuals to develop a philosophy of life. This philosophy
allows the person to take information from past experiences and
use it in present and future situations. Coping skills are
developed. Once a person acquires coping tools it is not necessary
to turn to drugs or alcohol for escape. Imagination is an
important foundation for the ability to cope.
Imagination will find creative
expression in many forms of activities. Teachers and parents, by
recognizing the need for the teen to express some independence in
preparation for life after the age of 18, will understand and
encourage the teenager to find his or her way of self-expression.
Painting, writing, music, tai'chi' or tae-kwando can help develop
self-esteem and future working and living skills.
Life would be more fun if we could
react to our own personal expectations, and not be confused by
what others want or think. Enthusiasm is one of the many traits
shown in the t-crossings and energy level of writing.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once said,
"enthusiasm is one of the most powerful engines of success.
When you do a thing, do it with all of your might. Put your whole
soul into it, stamp it with your personality, be active, be
energetic, be enthusiastic and faithful, and you will accomplish
your objective." He also said, "What lies behind us and
what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within
us." Go for the Gold.
| Dynamic Impressions- Kathleen Dickinson, CGA